Welcome to Armando's music of mindfulness
changing the world is not easyMany years ago I faced what I called "hypersensitivity". I was working as a school instructional aide to a child diagnosed with Down's Syndrome. The child was 10 years old, but had a developmental understanding of a 4 year old.
I had a very difficult time my first months of working with him. If the child did not want to do something, he would fall on the floor and refuse to move, or he would take his school work and break it into small pieces. I had to keep my job which was helping him complete his schoolwork, but I soon learned that in order for me to do so, I had to completely abandon the idea of controlling him. When asking the child for anything, such as "can you take out your math homework", I needed to maintain myself completely neutral inside. If I betrayed any inner sense of control, he would immediately rebel against what I asked. I had to ask from a sincere place of acceptance. When you lead a team you face a similar quandary as I did with my 10 year old charge: When you are a leader people will project on you their own parental issues, or will act out their own relationship to power. They will have a hypersensitivity to your inner state and they will know when you are attempting to control or manipulate them. They will not show it outwardly, most of the time at least, but they will harbor resentment, and they will not be open with you about their own misgivings and will not be engaged with their whole selves. Life stresses and the responsibilities of keeping your organization and team afloat can be overwhelming.
Whatever your position, you are human. Human beings anywhere, when overwhelmed, end up acting in ways that negatively impact what they are trying to accomplish. Misguided efforts to build trust, can become the very seeds of mistrust. Efforts to influence someone in a positive way, can become the reason for that person to distance themselves or cement their undesirable behavior. |
leadership mattersI am passionate about supporting leaders because they have the ability to everyone can work well together and be productive. In a deeper sense leaders have the responsibility to create environments where people flourish, and are able to become and express the best version of themselves.
I worked with parents and families for over 10 years and I could see how influential they were in the well being of their children. By helping the parents control their own emotions, and be more balanced and centered, they were able to create environments where their children flourished. As a leader in any organization, that is the responsibility and the opportunity you shoulder. By creating an organization where members can flourish you have the opportunity, day to day, to make the world a better place. who is armandoArmando assists and develops transformational leadership. He has practiced meditation and communication for the last 25 years and has 10 years of experience leading workshops and working with individuals, families, and businesses in both English and Spanish. Armando holds an A.A. Degree in Music from Cabrillo college and a B. A.in Cultural Anthropology from University of California at Santa Cruz where he graduated with Honors. Armando has also been certified for mediation through the Santa Cruz Mediation Center and completed a 9 month Radical Counseling Training through Interchange. He has taught Non-violent Communication and Mindfulness Meditation for the last 10 years. Armando is a prolific singer songwriter who uses his songs as tools for self reflection. |
for youI invite you to join my transformational leadership community. By joining you will receive weekly videos, no longer than 5 minutes each, with centering and balancing tips. In each video I also perform an original song made to help you assimilate the information so that you can bring it with you and apply it during the day.
As a gift for signing up, you can download the Life Carousel balancing cycle. This cycle helps you find what you need to balance quicker and find ways to make the smart choices in your overall life to maintain a supporting balance in your work life. |
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